The information contained in this article is a philosophy for how you can create a life that you love, which is on your terms, where you are spiritually connected and performing at your peak!
Being honest with you- Reading these words will not change your life overnight, the truth is even if you take every word of this text, implement it and make a conscious effort to do this stuff every day you will still struggle. Because human beings always struggle. But I still want to do my best to help you 🙂
The pursuit of your happiness will get you out of bed in the morning or if you feel that happiness is unattainable it may keep you there. It is one of the primary driving forces behind what we do and even the most selfless acts are done because of the feeling it gives us.
Many people past and present have risked everything to try to find that level of fulfilment, while others will dare not risk anything to maintain their level happiness, no matter how small it may be.
Happiness is not something that happens to you and while happiness can arise as a result of good fortune usually this initial feeling will only be temporary. It is not a place in which you arrive when all your problems go away. Nor is it a one size fits all model.
There are no hard and fast rule of what happiness looks like on an individual level, but there is a general philosophy which breeds a more content and satisfied nature in people who manage to master it.
The first thing you could do is to try and change your external world. Think of all the things you want and work towards getting them.
If you are realistic this does hold some merit, as your goals can bring you some happiness. However the model of changing your external world is flawed due to the fact that there are so many things in life you cannot control.
An example would be- if your job brings you happiness and you lose your job, you lose your happiness.
The second thing you can try to do is to change your internal world, meaning the way you view things. This is done by consciously looking for something good in situations, switching from I lost my job to I can find a better job.
Also accepting that there will be uncertainties and being prepared mentally for when things are not going your way. The key to this is by looking for as much good in things as you possibly can, no matter the circumstances you are in.
Humans have a habit of coasting through life when it is treating them well, but when we do, we are setting ourselves up for the big crash the moment things turn. Get into the routine of expressing gratitude through the good, the bad and the ugly.
Of the two ways the first way is totally reliant on perfection and while things can run smooth for a while, it is only a matter of time before something affects your perfect world.
However the latter can be lived out anywhere in the world, with anyone, in any environment. It has helped prisoners of war get through concentration camps and bereaved widows, heal from the loss of their partner. Not only has it helped people through pain, but it has also helped inventors keep on trying new ideas and business owners moving through financial loss.
I am not saying that if you have this perception you will not feel upset if you lose something or someone important to you and it’s not to say hardship will have no effect on you. It is saying that- regardless of your circumstances, you can still maintain a good attitude.
Equally important as your internal view of the world is to have purpose in your life. This varies from person to person but in the same way your adaptability to change needs flexibility, so does your purpose, or at least to some extent.
One person may go through their entire life with a goal in mind and execute it with perfection, but sometimes outside factors will stop you from achieving this purpose. You may be a piano player, but injure your hands or a business owner whose main product is no longer desirable.
At times you may need to refocus, reconnect or redirect your energy, but being connected to something that is more significant than yourself is the secondary key to happiness.
For an example of how the 2 connect- If you are a parent and you pride yourself on being a good parent, you have a connection to something significant. But if you cannot accept factors outside of your control and it becomes apparent you child has a disability this will tear your world apart.
Another example would be- If you are able to accept factors that you cannot control, but have a job which you don’t have any real connection with, you may not worry too much if you lose your job, moving aimlessly from position to position without any real purpose.
These ideas are easy in theory, but ultimately they are an ongoing process. You will have moments of happiness, unhappiness and everything in between. This is why it is a journey, not a destination.
I am Luke Miller the author of this article and creator of Potential For Change. I believe that spirituality is the foundation for good health and like to blend psychology and spirituality to help you create more happiness in your life. You can get a copy of Zen Week my free meditation and personal development course by clicking here!
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