I think that at some point in our lives, we should ask ourselves a series of questions. Here are some examples:
Am I happy with who I am?
Am I happy with my life?
Am I happy with where my life is going?
Am I happy with the people around me?
Do I have a life, or am I just existing?
Now, after you have asked yourself these questions if the answer is “no” to at least one of them, the next question you should ask yourself is this:
Do I want to change that, or do I want to continue living this way?
The next step is to figure out where the biggest challenge is and which area of our lives requires the highest priority.
Sometimes the biggest priority is not changing your partner, friend, or job; it’s healing the pattern that attracts all other issues.
Most of what we manifest in life reflects who we are.
Let me share a classic example, something I struggled with, and it’s also one of the more common challenges some of my coaching clients have come to me with. I generally call it a “lack of self-love,” which means that a person puts others before themselves. For example, let’s say someone comes to you and asks for a favor, and you know it’s a lot or maybe you can’t do it, but you’ll do it anyway because you’re afraid that if you say “no,” they will judge you.
Sometimes this pattern manifests in a way where the person is just trying to be kind to others, but they don’t value themselves as much. Some of these people with this pattern might also have low self-esteem.
What often happens to people with this particular “imbalance” (I like to use this word to describe such traits) is that they attract those who don’t value their kindness, take advantage of them, or use them, etc.
For example, someone who runs a business and has this pattern might attract a business partner who is selfish and takes advantage of them. Another example is that a person with this imbalance will attract people who won’t value their kindness. She might throw a birthday party, and some people won’t come, others won’t buy any gifts, and others will come late, etc.
The person with such an imbalance might attract a partner who takes advantage of them, etc.
Now, keep in mind that every one of us has some of these imbalances, sometimes called “shadow aspects of our personalities.”
Other common examples include:
- Selfish behavior
- Anger and a bad temper
- Negative thinking (chronic complainer)
These are just some examples, but there are many more. I’m sure you could think of some of these shadow aspects in yourself.
The topic of how our imbalances reflect in the type of life we create, the situations and people we attract into our lives, is covered more in my new masterclass, click here to check it out
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