Why You Should Choose Your Friends Carefully

By Mike Sygula

They say that we become the average of the 5 people we spend time with. In regard to friendships, you should think about these few areas: How my friends make me feel, do I like spending time with them or do I just hang out with them because I want to fit in? Do they impact me in a positive way? Maybe you have a friend who constantly wants you to go out and get drunk, and each time you do it, you feel that it is not benefiting you? Maybe they just like to gossip and talk about others behind their backs but you value more intellectual conversations?

As we grow and evolve, we often need to change our surroundings, some friendships might not benefit us anymore and we might not benefit them. There is nothing wrong about this. We all decide to take different paths in life and often our friends will become less compatible as we make bigger changes. Often when you go through a spiritual awakening, for example, things shift so much that you need new friends. Going through something so profound creates a massive shift in the way we perceive the world, it becomes something we want to talk about, but often, the people around us can’t understand us. It can be hard and the best you can do is find new friends who will relate.

Personally, I consider myself to be a very unique person and I like specific people, therefore my close friends are also unusual. I actually have a few close friends and most of them are living somewhere else. Sometimes you might find a good friend that lives on the other side of the planet. And this is fine, cultivate these relationships, it is not easy to find them. Make sure you cultivate true friendships. It can mean just to meet for a lunch once in a while or call them or something. It is not easy to find the right people but once you find them, make sure they stay in your life. Avoid those people that keep you down, that constantly complain or that create stress in your life.

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