What Is A Sapiosexual And Could You Be One?


Intelligence is enormously sexy.  ~ Frank Langella, actor

Who are you exactly?  What do you like, love, hate, and why?  As F. Bacon once said “it is a sad fate for a man to die too well known to everybody else, and still unknown to himself”.

Therefore, my hope is that this article will help you learn something new about yourself, something that you can say “damn, I’m cerebrally splendid” about.  Bon Appétit.


Do your synapses sizzle away as your sensory pathways are overstimulated by intelligent banter and witty wisecracks?  Do you feel like licking the frontal lobe of every astute person you meet, and orgasmically exulting in every debate you have with every brainy whiz you assemble with?  If so, you’re probably a Sapiosexual.

As defined by Sapiosexual Kayar Silkenvoice, Sapiosexuality is both a noun:

A person who is sexually attracted to intelligence in others. (noun)

And an adjective:

Of, or relating to, finding intellectual stimulation sexually arousing. (adjective)

Sapiosexuality is also a neologism (a newly created word) and comes from the Latin sapien, meaning wise or intelligent and sexualis, relating to sexuality.


But Sapiosexuality can’t be placed on a spectrum like asexuality, demisexuality and sexuality.  Instead, it can be understood as a kind of fetish, where an attraction to intelligence can be felt by any person of any sexual orientation.

As one Sapiosexual woman commented:

I find the human body of both sexes very attractive but I will not take any interest, if they do not show any signs of real intelligence.  The more intelligent they are, the more attractive they are to me.

But not everyone agrees.  As one person commented on an online dictionary page for the word:

This isn’t a real word.  (It) makes no sense as a sexual orientation.  Only pretentious pseudo-intellectuals would use such a thing.  Just say you’re turned on by intelligence.  There.

Yet with a Facebook community of currently 4,734 members, an Experience Project group of 927 people and a single page with currently 80,374 likes and 29,825 shares, “Sapiosexual” appears to be a widely accepted and well established noun and adjective.

What’s your opinion?


Is philosophical discussion like foreplay to you?  Do you feel more lust for the mind than the body?

If you would like to discover whether you’re Sapiosexual or not, take our Sapiosexual Test.

Also, if you have any opinions or comments, I’d love to hear them below in the comment section.

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