A few days back it in London it was freezing cold, I was in a real rush to get some writing finished by a self imposed deadline. Parking restrictions were preventing me from parking outside my own home (I know it’s bulls**t), so I had to park a few miles away and walk. I had quickly dropped my bags in the house and for some reason I decided it would be a good idea to accidently leave my coat in the house.
So a few miles away from my home in the freezing cold, in a super rush to get some stuff done I zipped up my favorite superman hoodie. Half way down the road I was feeling a real breeze, so I looked down and realised the zip on my hoodie was busted. It was zipped all the way to the top, but it had come open in the middle.
In this moment I realised that the hoodie was open in the way Superman rips open his shirt in the movies, so I went home and a said my gratitude for getting to be a real life superhero for my 2 mile journey in the cold!
Okay, so I am kind of joking here, but I am kind of serious at the same time. Life is not so much about what happens to you as it is about how you react to what happens to you. If you can find something to smile about even in the most frustrating of days, the not so frustrating days become a breeze!
Gratitude is something that has the ability to change your perspective of life in a very short period of time, the trick is to get into the habit of being grateful, once that habit has been built it becomes a part of your unconscious thought patterns and you automatically seek out things to be grateful for.
In this article I am not going to give you the easy road to more gratitude, I am going to be flipping it on it’s head and showing you how (think the superman jumper situation) when you have absolutely no right to be grateful you can show gratitude!
An Abuse Of Your Trust
No one likes to feel abused, violated or betrayed. However if this is something that has or often happens to you there are real valuable lessons to be learnt.
The first thing you can be grateful for is the abuse of trust is over (if it is over) you can also be grateful for the lesson, what did you do that allowed someone to abuse your trust?
Obviously there are many cases where an abuse of trust is not your fault and could not of been avoided, if this is the case what are you doing now as a result of the abuse of trust? If you search deep there CAN always be a silver lining in every situation. No matter how dark your experience was!
End Of A Relationship
So you or your partner (or both of you) have decided enough is enough and it’s time to move in different directions. Not the nicest moment in anyone’s life, but which lens are you going to view this one with?
You can show gratitude for the extra time you will have with yourself, the internal reflection which usually comes with this fresh start. Being able to date someone else may not be on your mind right away, but down the line there are a million opportunities for new beginnings, meetings and relationships.
A relationship ending can be looked at as an ending or a new beginning, it is all about perspective.
Being broke, not being able to pay the bills, debt collection companies knocking on the door and demanding payments, doesn’t sound like much fun, and guess what it isn’t. However there is a deep level of gratitude that can come as a result of not having everything you want, when you want- because it CAN teach you all about the attitude of gratitude.
Here’s the thing, if you have no money you either sink or swim, you either look deep within and start to show gratitude for all the non material things you have or you spend your life in envy with a sense of entitlement.
Be the swimmer, look at what you have, the food in your stomach, the water you drink, the air you breathe. The conversations you have, the friends you have made, this experience that you are blessed enough to be living everyday.
Then you can think about the lessons you have learnt from being broke, is there anything you can do differently, can you add more revenue to your bank balance. If you are really broke- the only way is up, so focus on what you can do, not what is holding you back!
Do you smoke, drink, gamble, take drugs? Are you eating yourself into an early grave or are you spending more money than you are making? Bad habits can be hard to kick, but where is the lesson in this one?
Bad habits can make you search deep within, they can show you your inner strength to keep going even when you feel like there is no hope. They can hold up the mirror and expose us, leaving us nowhere to hide.
Bad habits can show us what we are doing wrong and what we need to fix, and if you are strong willed enough to stand up and be strong you may even be lucky enough to kick your bad habit/s.
Bad habits can be self destructive and destroy those around you also, but if you can flip it on its head you can come out the other side a stronger person!
Bad Career Choice
You get up too early, you commute, your boss is an arsehole and your job sucks the life out of you. I get it, I have been there!
What can this teach us? Firstly it can teach you what you don’t want, the thing is many jobs start out as a great new career that is going to fulfill all your dreams and desires and then a few months down the line you start to realise what the hell you got yourself into.
You get paid, even if you are really broke, imagine how broke you would be if you didn’t have that little bit of income. Maybe there are a few people you have met or experiences you would not of had if you did not work at this life sucking job?
No matter what you are doing there is always a chance to learn, even if you are learning tolerance, so dig deep and hang in there, and if it is really making you miserable be on the lookout for something that fills you with joy!
I am an optimist, but also a realist, so I understand that every time you stub your toe you don’t have to look for a silver lining. But if you shift your perspective and start to consciously seek out things to be grateful for in your everyday life, your internal perspective of the world will change.
I hope you have found this article useful and let me know 1 thing you are grateful for that you have absolutely no right to be grateful about.
I will start- I am grateful that my cat attacks my feet at 4AM every morning, this allows me to wake up earlier and get more things done!
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