We live in a world of gains and goal, new year’s resolutions and the pursuit of more. While I am not saying we shouldn’t be striving for more in some areas of our lives, you will usually see more bang for your buck in what you lose, than what you gain.
Think of it like this, we are born into the world and as long as there are no issues with the birth, we pretty much have a clean slate. As time goes by we pick up habits, some good, some bad. By the time we leave school we have so many habits stacked on top of one another that we generally do not know our true self, from our conditioned self.
By the time we are deep into adulthood, we have been pushed, pulled and guided in a million directions, which can often lead to a huge sense of overwhelm. Then every new year we try and add another 5 habits to the million we already have.
In this article I am trying another approach, the opposite to resolution, what I would like to call a resoloseions were we focus on losing habits that are unhealthy and sabotaging our growth, instead of gaining new ones!
Below are 7 things you need to lose to make 2016 you best year ever
We are currently living in the most overstimulated and connected time in history, which can lead to the perpetual cycle of needing constant noise. This can come in the form of the TV, your digital devices, the radio in your car or just the constant need to be talking to someone
You can really learn a lot about yourself if you take a little time to be silent, so try taking just 5 minutes a day to practice being present while focusing on your breathing!
Time alone is good, the problem is a lot of people mistake being alone with being lonely, when they are 2 completely different things. You can spend a lot of time with people and still be lonely, in the same way you can spend a lot of time alone and be content!
As human beings we crave completeness, the perfect balance of light, dark, masculine and feminine. If we cannot find this completeness within ourselves, we will seek it outside.
This is why so many people crave constant contact, we need to validate who we are, validate our choices and make sure there are others who agree with us. It is good to connect, but the only way to really get to know who you are is to spend time alone and find that completeness.
You are the captain of your ship, your job is to steer and guide, there is a lot you can do to make sure your ship doesn’t sink, but occasionally you are going to hit some stormy weather.
There are many things in your life that you will not be able to control, this is okay, embrace the ride and just accept the good, the bad and everything in between!
If you want to take control take control of your choices, your opinions and your actions. If you want a complete lack of control try to control the choices, opinions and actions of others.
The first option is empowering, the second disempowering! If you want true empowerment for 2016 give up on controlling the uncontrollable!
Illusion Of Knowledge
Socrates said “The only true wisdom is in knowing you know nothing.” as human beings we have very few certainties, the grass may look green to me, but if a dog looks at that grass it is no longer green and who is to say that my perception of green is the same as your perception of green?
If you have an overwhelming need to be right all the time you will learn very little. If you cannot find the teacher/student balance inside you, then you will only have the illusion of being knowledgeable. If you think you know something but someone has a different opinion, don’t be too quick to dismiss it, as you may just miss a valuable lesson. Keep your mind open as there is always a something to take from every situation, but who knows maybe I am wrong about this! :)
Constantly looking at things in a negative light is a bad habit and while negativity is part of the yin and yang balance of life, chronic negativity is very much destructive.
Life is like a game of Monopoly, you can can embrace the struggle, accept that sometimes you will get unlucky, keep a good attitude and know that you can always start from the beginning should you lose. Or you can throw the Monopoly board across the room because you got sent to jail 5 minutes into the game.
Darker emotions are not necessarily negative, what is negative is when you take those dark emotions and use them as a reason to be destructive. We are all human and will slip up sometimes, but if you find yourself stuck in the perpetual cycle of negative energy, you have to do something to raise those vibes!
Yes I did say “Constant Positivity” if you do not embrace all states of mind you will end up imbalanced. This is where true maturity happens, when you can take the darker aspects of life, reflect upon them and still maintain a good attitude.
Masking the bad things that have happened in your life with affirmations, good thoughts and visualisation is only a band aid to the problem. Unless you have spent your entire life under a rock, chances are you have suffered quite a bit, if you truly want to heal you need to accept what has happened in your life and not mask it.
As I said earlier, full balance is light, dark, masculine and feminine. Different people embrace different parts in different ways, but if you want to truly grow you need to embrace the full package!
We all have masks, this is what we hide behind when we don’t want to be ourselves. To fully embrace what it means to be your own unique version of yourself, you need to drop this mask. Embrace what it is you love, spend your time with those who make you feel good and live your life to the limit every single day.
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