4 Things I Wish My Father Taught Me

by Kam

How many people are consciously aware of the grossly insufficient education they received as children. When you were taught about money were you given a broad overview of how money works or given coins to buy sweets, then eventually, sent out with a ‘note to buy books or household items. When you were taught about religion, did you get a broad overview of the concept, about the numerous faiths, or maybe a discussion of the psychological implication and or aspects of its practice.

All of those years we spent studying, and learning, essentially amounts to miniscule amounts beneficial knowledge in our adult years. I have spent the best part of my twenties learning concepts and topics which would have had a great impact on my direction in life had they been taught during my pre-teen years. For most of us, our young adult lives consist of large amounts of time ‘learning the ropes’, it’s as if we have to catch up to a reality that that was always there, but for whatever reason was shielded from us. At times I wonder about the very different person I could have been, if the last thirteen years of learning were mostly condensed down to a summer learning during the long school break.

All children are born with genius. We can describe genius as an endless curiosity, a wildly vivid but practical imagination, the endless pursuit of knowledge and the intelligent way these skills are expressed. Curiosity and imagination are traits rarely seen in adults though, but these characteristics are concentrated in people of note; Da Vinci, Tesla, George Orwell etc.

Adults who nurture their curiosity and imagination are always the standout figures in a group regardless of whether they attain success, money, or fame. Most people though, have to be ‘realistic’ there’s simply no time for daydreaming, what you need is an education and a job. Unfortunately, the consequences of being realistic essentially, amounts to whatever the common consensus is, in the society or surrounding a person is raised in. People tend to Conform to general ideas, as opposed to common ideas, this has lead to a global confusion rarely discussed and the reality is that essentially; individuals are judged by many different and opposing philosophies, most of which are harmful to the common good and yet naturally remain in place due to the rigid thinking of disconnected people.

For the general public, most perceptions are entrenched in error and misinformation. People are happy and confident in the fact they are knowledgeable, even when the opposite is true. The reality people ignore is something they are still very much subject to. Most people take pride in their ignorance, but these shortcomings have their limitations, and in truth, they lead to a self damaging path, not only for themselves but due to the connected way our world works, others are affected too. This negative impact may be too subtle to notice but it can become painfully clear when sufficient attention is paid to the interconnectivity of our existence.

Self-lies become very apparent when we observe exceptional individuals. People who are just like us. People who have endured the same struggles we have but have clearly pushed through, and elevated themselves to positions of power or notoriety, exceptional individuals are at times labeled as blessed, or lucky, and that “somehow” they possess within them, a power which we mere mortals cannot possibly attain. We are all capable of being exceptional, the difference is usually the simple act of doing, when others don’t.

Seeing others overcome the same world struggles we all have to deal with, should make us all soberly aware of our self defeatist nature, and thus shine a light on our own inherent failures, failures which in a large part, we impose on ourselves, but they do not. The absolute truth is we all possess that thing that makes some individuals stand out on a global scale. Things would be much easier for us if we were raised from childhood with a more sensible and practicable approach to learning and co existing on a single planet.

If certain knowledge and practices were supported by parents first, it would be easy to break the never ending cycle of ignorance our children are bombarded with, ignorance which children nurture, and pass on as they grow, infecting others directly and indirectly. If we had a general understanding that, at the very core of mankind, any selfish, foolish, evil or ignorant act is a break in the chain of humanities positive interests, could it mean universal success and prosperity for all.

If support from society is the momentum, parental support is the initial jolt that can get us going in pursuit of a truly wonderful world we could all be happy to call home.

When a child sees a person, they usually just see a person, an adult however sees with tainted glasses, are they attractive? What do their clothes and demeanor suggest about them? They think about all their preconceptions and rarely consider how totally wrong they could be. The shortcoming of personal perception continues, America has just been rebranded an oligarchy  yet most, who are not aware of such research, probably deem it still to be a democracy. How is it possible people can think and possess an idea, an unshakable idea, when all evidence suggest contrary. The great power to commit oneself to a non truth must come second, only to the power some yield; to make others believe in an obvious lie.

With such a colorful life full of both adventure and misadventure, there are lessons we all pick up. These lifelong lessons I think, should be the duty for any potential parent, to teach their kids at the earliest possible moments in their lives. To arm kids with logical and practical reasoning is key to avoiding the traps we have all fallen for, generation after next, all the way back to time immemorial.

These next points are ideas I wish my father had taught me and my siblings, lessons which if we had been taught, learnt, and understood well, would have made him a more proactive and respected member of society. If I ever sire children, these points and many others, are topics I would discuss with them at the earliest possible stages of their development.

Our origins

Some say we were genetically modified by aliens from the DNA of indigenous life-forms to dig gold in Africa. Some say we were created by an all powerful ‘God’ who created the earth in a matter of days.

When it comes to all-powerful God’s there are plenty of deviations across the cultures of the world. What I’ve learnt is to keep it simple and to not waste precious time following any single theory of how and why we are here. As a matter of fact, all theories contradict; and therefore cancel out all other theories.

Believing any one theory over all other theories is a personal choice, and personal feelings do not amount to much when they oppose reality. From a lifelong observation it is clear facts support facts and fiction is a never ending story that can be altered at whim.

It is always best to support thought and theory with factual information, opinions are there for one reason only to divide humanity, and anything that is divided is easily conquered. Believing something to be so, without a universally recognized/accepted path of logic is a sure path to an erroneous conclusion.


There is nothing wrong with hope in my opinion; in fact, I think it pairs very well with imagination. But these two states of thought must be taken very seriously and are not to be abused. Why buy one lotto ticket and hope to win big!? The reality is that there are STATISTICS involved with winning or losing. If a person were to take the statistics into strict consideration they would never set themselves up to imagine an outcome that has a very low chance of coming to fruition…there are many people who have played the lottery their whole lives (father too) and probably haven’t broken even, such practice essentially amounts loss of money via hope.

A realistic use of hope is imagining being successful in a group interview after having carefully considering yours , and the acts of other candidates and thinking what the interviewer is looking for in a potential employee.

It is always beneficial for an individual to base their thoughts firmly on reality, as opposed to being one easily swayed by something as trivial as good advertising of a needless product or blindly following unreasonable public opinion.



Giving up your trust to the wrong person, idea or status-quo is the most dangerous thing an individual can do, being a good person means you will expect good from others, instead of people rejoicing in your goodness, some will seek to exploit it. Complete trust in anything including oneself is a practice that should be taken with the most extreme caution.



Father spent an obscene amount of time getting me to memorize the multiplication table 2 to 12. I have often wondered what the purpose of this pointless pursuit was. I carry a Smartphone and the calculator app is easily accessible.

Learning the abacus  is a more productive way of absorbing math, with practice, a person can perform mental calculations with relative ease, this skill when learnt, provides a lifelong benefit not only in mathematics but other areas of cognitive function. I cannot recite the times table as quickly and accurately as I once could as there’s simply no benefit to me, and therefore the painful sessions I endured were ultimately not only a waste of my time but were detrimental to the healthy learning of a young adult.

If education involves the memorizing facts for the duration of an exam, then those memorized facts were not important to begin with. Teaching should be about getting the subject to understand, a person rarely forgets what they understand, but easily forgets facts that have a shelf life. The picture above provides a very accurate description of the current educational system. Rather than focus on how well my kids can memorize facts for exams my focus on their learning would be in preparing them for adulthood. Teaching them about how hard some work for little money, the state of world politics and a complex understanding of psychology and sociology would play be a big role in my daughter or sons education.

Every day that my father learnt a valuable lesson, either in defeat or in success, it would it have been so much better if he explained these situations as lessons to his kids. Instead of us having to repeat the same mistakes our forefathers have made, wouldn’t it be better for us as a global society if we were advised on the pitfalls in life so that we may learn and then one day, provide updated knowledge to our children?

It should be the social norm to nurture responsible human beings with a deep understanding of whatever state the world happens to be in during the course of their early lives. It must be a responsibility, not to be taken lightly, that at the youngest age possible, we provide for our young, a healthy and usable knowledge that provides a good understanding of the global society in which they reside.


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Kam is my preferred name; these three letters are actually part of my initials. In my later years I have shied away from the family name because the differences have become something I cannot ignore. I see true family in the kinship with like minded people. Born and raised in the U.K I am currently living in West Africa, where for whatever reason, I feel my destiny lies

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