I Feel Like An Introvert. So Why Do My Friends Think I’m An Extrovert?

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By Raven Fon via Uni Soul Theory

I’M NOT AN EXTROVERT.

I HAVE NEVER RELATED TO BEING AN EXTROVERT. SO WHY DO MY FRIENDS SEE ME AS THAT TYPE OF PERSON WHEN I FEEL EXACTLY THE OPPOSITE?

Earlier this week, one of my close friends tagged me in a post about extroverts, adding, “This is so you!” Never before have I felt so utterly confused.

WAS SHE JOKING?

 An extrovert is defined as “an outgoing, socially confident person.” Myers-Briggs says extraversion is when someone “likes getting their energy from active involvement in events and having a lot of different activities; is excited when around people and likes to energize other people; likes moving into action and making things happen; often understands a problem better when they can talk out loud about it and hear what others have to say.” Seriously, none of that sounds like me.

I feel like I land closer to the introspective side of things. I get my energy from residing in my inner world. Reflection and ideas are part of my daily life. But stepping outside those walls and being the ‘life of the party?’ Not really my cup of tea.

I see myself as the person who isn’t anti-social, but selectively social. I do like being around some people, but not many, and not for long periods of time. And when I am around those few people, they seem to really enjoy my company (some even laugh at my jokes). I admit, I can be charismatic and outgoing at times. But it’s not my main mode of operation.

Understanding and figuring out problems is definitely not a social activity for me. I prefer to think about things by myself, write them down, and conclude the best possible outcome. Of course, if I struggle, I’ll ask for help, but I’m probably not going to open up a forum about it.

SO, WHAT IS IT?

INTROVERSION WITH A BIT OF EXTRAVERSION?

AN EXTROVERTED INTROVERT?

I always thought you had to be one or the other, but that just isn’t true. These personality types run along a spectrum. One day I might feel like grabbing a bite to eat with some close buds, and the next day I might need to be alone, in my pajamas, with my favourite book, for the full 24 hours.
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 While I may never know why my friends see the extroverted side of me as being more prominent, it certainly was an eye-opening experience. Maybe being able to see ourselves through the eyes of others can help diminish the stereotypes we give ourselves.

Am I an introvert or an extrovert, or an extroverted introvert? I’m not really sure. It varies day to day. One thing I do know is, it’s great to be seen for more than what I saw myself as.

WE ARE MORE THAN THE LABELS WE GIVE OURSELVES. AND WE SHOULD REALLY APPRECIATE THAT LITTLE FACT.

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